Tuesday, February 15, 2005
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1. After arguments u feel closer.
You both feel raw, exhausted and a little fragile but closer than u did before it. U've managed to talk it through rationally, listened to each other's veiwpoints and come up with a solution that suits both of u.
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2. Jealousy isn't a problem.
Instead of losing it and storming out or trying to get even by flirting with someone else, u confess jealous feelings and allow yourself to be reassured. u become less jealous of each other the longer u're together.
3. If in doubt, u'll take it as a compliment.
If your partner says something that could be misconstrued, u'll put the best possible light on it. If your partner doesn't feel like sex, u think, "They must be tired" not "They dun fancy me anymore"
4. You think first, den react later.
If u accept each other, u'll allow for differences. If your partner's being critical, u'll listen, take into account any stresses and how tired they are, then throw in your two cents' worth. Only importatnt issues are worth fighting over.
5. You don't change to suit each other, u work with each other.
U're aware of each other's bottom line. There's a certain standard that's expected, but u're not rigid. You can put your partner's needs before your own occasionally.
6. You know how to say goodbye.
He's about to head off for a 2-week work trip. You don't cling, sob, or feel resentful. You take him to the airport, kiss and hug, then wave him off cheerily. A graceful exit is best. Smart lovers keep each other hungry for more.
7. You both feel u're getting a fair deal from the relationship.
Ask yourself this: Who's getting the best deal from the relationship: Me or my partner? You're on the right track when u can honestly answer, "It's fairly equal"
------- Cleo, Jan 2005.
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